| I have no idea what to call my biological father. He wrote me off when I was an infant because he was convinced I wasn't his (wrong), and then proceeded to kidnap my two older sisters and take off to Las Vegas when I was a toddler. Once they came back, the court granted partial custody to him for my sisters(why??), but I wasn't part of the equation. Sure, I could go with them on visits, but I was a tag-along--the non-sister. He attended some school events of mine on occasion, and bought me birthday presents, but he wasn't "my dad." I feel squeamish referring to him as "Dad." I'm 32 now. I've been blessed with a stable, loving, compassionate father figure who came into our life about 2 years ago and never had kids of his own. He's been incredible to my husband (whose dad is also really botched) and our two boys, who needed a grandpa. I want to call him Dad because he deserves it, but it still seems disloyal. Calling him just "Tom" seems not enough, given our relationship now. Any suggestions? |
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